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New Film ‘DAD’, Featuring Dads of Autistic Kids, Gives Hope and Encouragement


Above: Some of the men featuring in the film ‘DAD’. Top row, L-R: Ian Rogerson, Lai Huynh, Mat Rogers and Michael Whelan; Bottom row, L-R: Monir Elhage, Nick Orsatti, Raj Shashi and Richard Peake.

By: Clare Bruce

Parents of children with autism will nod, smile, laugh, shed a tear – and gain great insight and encouragement – from a moving new short documentary film called DAD.

Featuring 12 dads of kids with autism, including 90s – 2000s football star Mat Rogers, the film from Autism Awareness Australia is only 36 minutes long – an easy watch. It shows that autism can touch anyone, but that with the right support, parents and their children can thrive.

Along with a star footballer we meet a marketing executive, a radio presenter, a farmer, a neurosurgeon, a public servant, an optometrist, a pharmacist, an academic and more – and learn how they have navigated through the ups and downs of their child’s autism diagnosis.

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We hear how they first reacted when they learnt their child’s condition, how it has impacted on their marriage and family life, what their autistic child has taught them about life, and how the experience has changed them for the better.

The emotional struggles, the tears and the victories, the good days and the bad days all take centre stage.

‘Life Brings Unexpected Joys and Rewards’

Greg and Alex Rafferty
Above: Greg Rafferty and his son Alex at home on the family farm.

For farmer Greg Rafferty, some of the standout moments of development include the memorable day was when his teenage son Alex learnt to open and close a gate on the farm. For a boy with Level 3 autism, it was a major achievement that took four months’ work, and was a real victory moment.

“Men like to fix things, especially for their families, but autism can be isolating and no easy fix,” Greg said. “But with effective evidence-based treatments it can certainly improve. Even with severe autism, life brings unexpected joys and rewards you never saw coming.”

For Mat Rogers, the experience of parenting his son Max has humbled him and changed him for the better.

While he was at first “angry, bitter and disappointed” when his son first received the diagnosis of autism, now he “wouldn’t change a thing”. Life “used to be about what I could make and get,” he says, “now it’s about what I could do and give.”

Other fathers say they have become more patient, understanding, thoughtful and reflective, less selfish,  more caring of others, and less judgmental, knowing that everyone has a story and needs compassion. One dad says he is now “unembarrassable” as he has learnt to be at ease with the unusual situations his son can create.

Above: Mat Rogers with son Max gaming at home.

For new autism dads, there is plenty of good advice, such as:

  • listening to your gut instinct
  • choosing the treatment that works best for your child
  • seeking answers early
  • not fearing the diagnosis
  • not bottling up your experiences and feelings
  • reaching out for support
  • talking to your mates
  • knowing that “it gets better”

Don’t Fear Diagnosis, and Never Lose Hope

Pharmacist Monir Elhage encourages parents not to avoid therapies out of fear and denial. “You have to give it a name,” he says.

Alex James-Elliott, father to Taj, says he appreciates how lonely it can be as an autism dad can be, but encourages fathers to keep moving and believing things will get better.

“Don’t think ‘woe is me’,” he says. “Think, ‘How am I going to climb this mountain? Left foot, right foot, get going’.”

“It’s okay to feel sad or to not feel like yourself, and it’s crucial to talk about how you are feeling.”

Opening up and talking to others is also important, he adds. It’s part of moving forward: “It’s okay to feel sad or to not feel like yourself, and it’s crucial to talk with the people close to you about how you are feeling.”

Only one dad in the film has a daughter with autism; Raj Shashi. He encourages other parents that an autism diagnosis “is not the end of the world”. “There is hope,” he says. “Never lose hope.”

Marketing executive Richard Peake says while being a dad to an autistic child “doesn’t come with instructions” and can often be lonely, talking to others will help you to feel more connected.

“I am increasingly hopeful that with initiatives like this documentary and a broader more positive dialogue in society around autism, dads like me realise it doesn’t have to be quite so lonely, and actually talking about “it” can only help you and your child,” he says.

Watch the Film, Learn More

See the film DAD and connect with other parents in the autism community at the website, dadfilm.com.au.

Article supplied with thanks to Hope Media.

About the Author: Clare is a digital journalist for the Broadcast Industry.